The rhythm of love and hate
Love and hate are not possible without each other.
The radio has been around for a long time and I tend to listen to it more than I can keep track. It used to be that the radio was a way of communication but now with more advanced technology the radio seems to only exist in the car.
In an era like today songs with lyrics that read
“I hate you I love you
I hate that I love you”
are specifically confusing to understand, or at least for me they are and should be for many. Songs like these make top lists and are well known by the common person. What is interesting about this is that how someone can hate and love at the same time and then hate themselves for loving. It becomes a very misleading phrase.
Most people tend to have something they really “dislike”. Whether it is bumper to bumper traffic, a specific food, a color, a president, or a song everyone has something that they dislike. Other times things that we really dislike cause us to feel a specific way, like hate. The question here is classifying the differences between “dislike” and “hate”. People use the terms without a proper definition as we see in song lyrics. It becomes difficult to tell apart the “dislike” and “hate”. To begin, according to Sara Ahmed, in order to hate anything we should as well be able to dearly love something because love and hate compliment each other. More specifically
“Hate does not reside in a given subject or object. Hate is economic; it circulates between signifiers in relationships of difference and displacement.”
Take for example, differences in food taste. Some people hate fries, as hate describes a strong dislike , but you do not hate your partner because they eat fries. Many times food is brought down through cultures. Many people eat specific food related to their culture; food that they could relate too. Many cultures eat unique types of foods and sometimes these different foods instead of being seen as a negative, they instead signify and represent an individual. So what happens when someone from a different culture “hates” their food? This does not imply that you hate the person or their culture necessarily it just means you dislike their food although the word hate does signify something bigger. On occasions when people hear that someone else does not like their food it is taken as a rejection of their culture. Food is seen as culture. The difference in fries and foods from a culture is that fries are seen as a non cultural food it is something that everyone has quick access as oppose to a specific dish.
In a world like today, where our own president excludes certain groups for their characteristics it is crucial that we unite together to show our love for each other. We tend to use hate as a mode to get into the lives of many because we are so deeply in love with something else. One should instead love each others cultures and learn to move forward together in times like these.
