Why would you hurt your significant other if you love them?
Have you ever been slapped in the face by your significant other? Did your husband beat you for not having his dinner ready when he got out of work? Have you ever cried yourself to sleep knowing a person is hurting you but you’re too attached to leave? Do these instances sound like a loving relationship?
I ask these questions out of curiosity of understanding what we as a society call “love”. Love can be defined as “involuntary”, or an intense feeling of deep affection. Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure. It can refer to an emotion of a strong attractions and personal attachment. Even though people start out loving each other, if a person’s love diminishes, action such as physical violence can occur.
Then the question comes into place if being in a relationship like that, is there really love? Although relationships may start off with love, one person’s feelings may change, and things such as disrespect and abuse initiate.
Domestic violence has increasingly been recognized as a significant social problem in contemporary society. In the case of D. Gale, a woman who suffered from domestic violence knew she was in a dangerous situation when she married her ex boyfriend’s friend. Gale’s husband happened to be very demanding and controlling. Her husband was only nice to her in public to show everyone supposedly how nice he was. As time went on, Gale’s husband attacked her with one hand and pushed Gale to the ground until she was unconscious. Holding her daughter in one hand, the husband threatened her to leave with her and never seeing her again.
Cases such as Gales is what makes me curious about the definition of “love”. How can one simply say “I love you” to their significant other, and later pushed them to the ground and threatened them to leave with their child? In my opinion there have been many incidents similar to Gales in terms of violence against woman. Domestic violence being classified as a major violent act against woman, has been steadily increasing for decades now. However, actions like these, begin with what we classify as “love
No Woman should suffer the consequences of domestic violence, and at times where a woman does, she should take action and not be ashamed or sacred to reach out for help, because help is just a phone call away.
