Genius in a Bottle
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Genius in a Bottle

Self Care Mantras Fear the Gospel of the Vibrator

And it is said that water is healing

Photo by Dainis Graveris on Unsplash

The cat near the window is getting sun-kissed. Lazing around, she closes her eyes and stretches her small feet. As if I am an overworked boss in a skyscraper, I wonder how this cat relaxes so easily. On her own? Does it just happen?

The Term and the Trend of Self Care

The term self-care is personal. It is you and your individual needs. It is your own homebody. I am not a home inspector. I haven’t walked in your shoes to speak like an advisor.

The trend of self-care is a public attraction. And a selling business now. All audiences are allowed. There is no homebody. In fact, I don’t know who is in there.

I carry dispassion for the term of self-care. Because I care about human beings. I care about the human heart. What we consume matters. True gentleness can not be sold. We are such fragile, complex creatures. Not one-sided. Our lives are moving, sometimes we slow dance, sometimes things unravel fast. And there, in the in-betweens of our lives’ rhythm, we see that we do not have the same needs or feelings every day. Darling, we are not robots. If I feel the same emotion constantly, what am I truly experiencing in this lifetime?

Rich Emotional World

This vast world is not very stable. At different levels for people, of course. But, in general, it is not repetitive. Because people change. We are not a rollercoaster ride. We are on a rollercoaster ride. Little things affect us, big things change us, and so on. I look at the changes. I look inside my heart next. We are very rich. We have emotions. They liberate us and guide us. There is a variety of those magical little things within us.

There are 63 positive feelings, and happiness is only one of them. By the way, forced happiness is not on the list. There are several negative feelings other than sadness. We are soulful creatures. We can not just... quiet down.

What do you want?

I want to truly live. I don’t want an influencer’s life. Oh goodness, the boring apple plate every day. I will sink my teeth in all kinds of food. I will travel to Japan. I will make mistakes. I will crumble and lose parts of my identity. And again, I will be found. I have faith in the marvelousness of my humanity.

Not Faulty

There was an era before this one, where you didn’t feel incomplete or faulty for not having your life together every hour of the day. You cried, asked for help, and somewhere along the ride, you found lights in the corners of healing that God left for you. Or if you don’t believe in God, that’s okay. I am speaking on the universe’s hints, put in your path to be found. You didn’t have to rip off pieces of yourself to find them.

The universe is still light and strong. Always will be a giving, green, loving universe. Giving, giving. It never stops giving.

Before falling into the tumble of performative self-care, I remember making choices. A bad day matched a nice talk with a friend. It was not fashionable. It was genuine love. Now, I could be having an okay day and convinced I am sick by social media. I do not need to be self-care-lectured on peeing 12 times per day for happiness. I can pee in the meadow for that. Can I not? The cat would.

Here is my morning routine. I will try not to look at my phone too much. I will eat breakfast because I am hungry. I will notice the weather and have some thoughts. Then I will work. Thank you. Goodbye.

A Box of Vibrators

Why doesn’t the self-care trend of perfectly polished livers and notebooks include vibrators? The female body can do more than just drink tea. Believe me.

Por qué? It very much should be a part of self-care. Sexual needs exist. And giving yourself pleasure should also be normalized. It is personal care and the self is banging one out. Have a bad day, take out your prettier vibrator.

It is not glamorized enough. Of all the times I have seen pictures of blue waters, no vibrators. Is it so wrong? Is it taboo? Does it not make enough money as a headline?

Vibrators can be glamorized, too. If self-care was exploited enough to become a leading selling product, the same should be done about sexuality. Free the vibrators. Pull it out and dance it out.

A vibrator is an important part of self-care. Sexual orgasms release endorphins, help you think less, your muscles relax as stress leaves your body. Imagine a box of them next to a box of bath bombs. Why not?

I raise my glass of water to those that influence. Cheers. I definitely drink more water, thank you. Now, open the dialogue for more. Use different words than ‘wellness’ and break taboos. Let’s not make more structured cages. We must grow closer to one another again. Down to Earth. For we are complex beautiful little humans needing one another to raise each other. People do not want to be showed how to be perfect, they want to be lifted and allowed to be themselves.

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