Gentleness Ambassadors Interview series
I’m excited to start this new Interview series where healers, coaches, therapists, and other solopreneurs share how they embody Gentleness and release Harshness in their businesses and personal lives.
I call them Gentleness Ambassadors :)
I’m delighted to interview Suzanne Culberg to kickstart this interview series! I got to connect with Suzanne through an authentic business mastermind group for the past seven months, and I appreciate her dedication to helping her clients and her lighthearted humor.
More about Suzanne Culberg
She is a mindset coach for weight loss. She believes your physical body is simply a by-product of what’s going on internally.
Suzanne’s passion for helping women is fueled by her weight journey going from 150kg to maintaining the healthy 72kg she is now.
Suzanne knows that no single approach is right for every individual. So she uses a mix of modalities, including Neuro-Linguistic Programming, hypnosis, and energy medicine, to give her clients the accountability to create lasting change.
Here are some of the highlights from our interview together!
Suzanne is a Manifesting Generator with Emotional Inner Authority, Profile 6/2, and 3 Undefined Centers in her Head, Ajna, and Root Centers.
My analysis of her chart and other descriptions are in italics, and Suzanne’s answers are under each topic heading.
The Harshness of Emotional Eating
Watch this at 4:44 in the video interview above.
Suzanne has two defined emotional channels that have incredibly high and low moods, so I could see how easy it must have been for her to eat as a way to distract herself from her emotions.
Here’s how she describes one of her worst emotional eating epsiodes:
I would eat everything I go to the shop. I had like a family box of chocolate tub of ice-cream, condensed milk… I told myself this is gonna be the last time I’d never do it again so might as well make the most of it you know. Then I would feel literally sick, and be so sick, like I’m never gonna do this again you know that’s it I’m done! Rinse, repeat but most days of the week more often they’re not so you know it was emotionally exhausting, physically exhausting…
I wasn’t self harming internally and you could see it by my protruding side, it was like a way of harming myself.
Here are some of the things I do now to manage my low moods:
- Using Acuity Scheduling to manage all personal and client appointments and setting scheduling limits, so I don’t feel overwhelmed.
- Using a semi-flexible meal plan so I don’t give myself full freedom to eat whatever is in my fridge.
- Schedule physical exercises as appointments and sticking to those appointments regardless of how I feel that day about exercising.
Coping with Harsh Limiting Beliefs about Weight Loss
Watch this at 13:35 in the video interview above.
Suzanne has Open Head and Open Ajna Centers, which can cause her to feel easily affected by others’ problems, thoughts, and beliefs. I asked her to share what it was like experiencing this and how she is releasing this Harshness.
I felt deeply discouraged by my biology teacher, who once said that fat cells don’t die, so, if you were fat as a child, you would be doomed to be fat forever!
So many people are attached to their way of doing things and there is no one way because we all have different bodies, different metabolisms, different energy requirements, different amounts of sleep, different responsibilities. So the way we respond is gonna be different and and that’s a large part of that acceptance to myself and helping other people work out the best way for them.
That challenge of believing the common beliefs — it’s to always take it through the filter of how can how can like I make this work for me…
You Can’t Hate Yourself Skinny.
Watch this at 22:10 in the video interview above.
Suzanne sets up a no-judgment zone for her clients so that they can leave behind whatever happened in the past and focus on taking baby steps forward from where they are right now. Radical honesty is important — to not judge yourself, and do not forget what you did or didn’t do too!
How can I accept myself as I am and still have that drive to want to change? You know you can’t hate yourself skinny!…How to accept yourself as you are now and still feel encouraged to want to make changes.
Letting Go of the Need for To Be Perfect After Losing Weight
Watch this at 26:01 in the video interview above.
Suzanne had to release her disappointment of not feeling as perfect as she thought after she had lost all that weight and was able to maintain her ideal weight.
And then you drop all the weight and you’re like you are still you…I’m not magically more confident, I’m not magically eloquent, I’m not magically like put together so it’s just that kind of that really tough inner critic like we’re not done yet…
You do the best you can with what you have and the way that you get more confident is to do things that confident people do like put yourself in and stretch…Like this interview, you get good at interviews by doing them — not reading books and thinking about it…
Discomfort is the currency of Change…
It’s okay to be uncomfortable yes, but we don’t shock ourselves. You don’t suddenly do big massive changes that you can’t accommodate.
These are just some of the exciting highlights of our interview. Do watch the full interview video for more insights and lighthearted humor from Suzanne!
Here’s how you can connect with Suzanne: