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Are GenX Women Really Having the Best Sex?
Staring down sex positivity in the so-called “last sexual generation.”
I haven’t had sex in over a year.
My extended abstinence hasn’t been intentional. I’ve tried the dating apps. I’ve swiped countless profiles. I even had an alarming conversation with a Dating AI bot that was possibly trying to kill me.
I’ve met some men. One I wanted to sleep with, but he disappeared after a few dates. Others tried to put me down. I met men who were too solo poly or boring or aloof to date.
The rest? I’ve met good guys, so-called “needles” in the parlance of the Burned Haystack Dating Method. Just not my needle.
I’ve never been particularly adventurous when it comes to dating and sex. Don’t get me wrong — sex is awesome. I wish I were having lots of it. I’m just hard-wired for heterosexuality, monogamy, and connection. One might call me demisexual, but I don’t. I just like to know and trust a guy before I get naked with him.
And that hasn’t happened for a long time.
So imagine my surprise when friends sent me a link the New York Times story, “Why Gen X Women Are Having the Best Sex.”
This GenX woman can’t roll her eyes hard enough.
