I achieve my goals daily, and it’s easy. Here’s how.
The no-nonsense guide to actually manifesting your ideal reality
In this article, I’m going to show you how to have, do, and be, whatever you choose. You going to have an experience of what I’m talking about while reading this article, and you’re going to gain a powerful tool to take with you and start using to turn the tide in your life. This change starts now.
Keep the end in mind
About four months ago, I read the chapter in The Success Principles by Jack Canfield about the importance of goal-setting. That’s when I added an item to my daily lifestyle checklist to review my goals. Most days over the past four months, I’ve read through each of my goals and imagined what it will be like for them to be achieved. By the way, I currently have 85 goals.
Over these months, it has become clear to me that all of my success in life has come from my haphazard implementation of goal setting. I’ve been successful to some degree because I happened to set some goals here and there, and I happened to review them every now and then. This has usually happened not on paper, nor on a computer screen, but informally inside my mind. Now that I have a consistent and concrete practice, I can see clearly how it continually re-orients me in the direction of where I want to go, and it actually has a real and powerful effect on my life.
Learn how to effectively work with goals
Now I’m going to show you the next level. Over the past month or so, various people have told me that I should pay attention to the work of Abraham-Hicks. I had heard of them from the movie called The Secret. I have always avoided their work because it seemed really woo-woo to me. Ester Hicks allegedly channels a group of entities which she calls Abraham. I’m super-pragmatic and very skeptical, so it was really hard for me to dig into this stuff.
I started listening to what Abraham-Hicks had to say, and it really resonated with me. I could feel inside myself what they were talking about, and I could see how the principles had operated within my life already. The movie called The Secret is based on the work of Abraham-Hicks, and the original version includes Abraham-Hicks. Then there was a falling out between the person who made The Secret and Ester Hicks. The latest version of the movie does not include Abraham-Hicks. I think that Abraham-Hicks is really good at explaining the way that manifestation works, and they’re really good at guiding people to actually get it and really utilize it. The Secret is a watered-down, popular expression of Abraham-Hicks, and it misses a lot of the essence of what Abraham-Hicks teaches.
I’ve been using the Abraham-Hicks approach inside myself for about a week now, and I’ve been guiding other people in its use, and I really want to share my understanding with you. I now see that all my successes in the past have been due to a haphazard, almost accidental application of this. I hope I have a way of expressing it to you that really resonates with you, and helps you to understand it and apply it. I want you to get really get this, and I want you to thrive.
My life has already changed massively since I really understood this, and since I started applying it. In this past week, I have moved forward rapidly and effortlessly towards achieving many of my goals, and I have felt amazing while that’s been happening. I suspect that because I have so many massive goals, and because I also have such a strong commitment to not suffering, I simply had to come to an understanding of this stuff.
Now I’ll lay this whole thing out for you in a way that is easy to digest.
You already have what you’re truly seeking
This is real, and you can experience it right now. Think of a goal you have; think of something you want to be, do, or have. Got it? Okay, this is guidepost to your essential self. I’m going to help you find your core essential self right now. If you’re like most people, you’re going to have all kinds of crappy stuff coming up when you think of that goal. There are probably fears, beliefs, and tensions in your body and mind right now when you think of the goal.
What I want you to do right now is to figure out what it is about that goal that you would really like. Usually, it’s some kind of feeling. For example, you might want to feel safe, or secure, or loved, or capable. Find the kernel of what it is you’re after. Got it? Now think of a time in your life when you have felt that quality. Once you have that memory, and start feeling that experience within yourself, enjoy it, nurture it, feed it with encouragement. Let it grow. Water it like a plant. Revel in it.
This feeling that’s spreading throughout your body-mind is an experience of your essential self. This is you without all the gunk that has accumulated over you. This is the essence of you revealed. Right now. This is real.
When you set a goal, you change
The moment you set a goal, you make a commitment to bringing into the world a manifestation of your essential self. Every time you think of the goal, your re-orient yourself to that commitment to manifest your essential self. When you set the goal, you’re changing reality at the most fundamental level. I have strong sense that what I essentially am, and what reality essentially is, are the same thing. When you fundamentally change, reality also fundamentally changes. When you set a goal, reality changes.
So why are my goals not manifesting?
Your goals are manifesting, but they’re taking a very long time, and most of us are creating endless intermediate goals in order to make the external manifestation of our essential self take a very long time and be really painful.
Time for an analogy
Let’s say you’re standing on one side of your bedroom, and you decide that you want to get from one side of the bed to the other. You and I know that the best way to get to the other side of the bed is either to walk around the bed, or to climb over the bed. In the moment you decide to want to get to the other side of the bed, you fundamentally change, and reality fundamentally changes. Then there is a short process of walking around, or climbing over, the bed to make physical reality match your goal. Physical reality has inertia, and it takes a little while for physical reality to match your goals, but as you can see, it can be pretty effortless.
Some of us actually do struggle with moving across a room, but most of us have mastered that level of manifestation. On a larger scale, most of us do struggle to get past the bed. Most of the time, we decide we would like to be on the other side of the bed, and immediately a large number of limiting beliefs come up. The inertia of our old identity starts to scream, “BUT WE’RE ON THIS SIDE OF THE BED!” We look at the bed and we say, “Fucking bed! Why do beds have to get in the way all the time! I’m stuck on this side of the bed, and I want to be on that side, but the bed’s in the way! See, I’m one of these people who are stuck on this side of the bed. I’m going to have to move my legs, and what if I don’t want to do that. What if I injure myself!?”
What’s happening here is that we’ve forgotten to identify with our essential self, the self that feels clearly the essence of what it will be like to stand on the other side of the bed. Instead, we started identifying with an old self, the remnants of what we use to be, the “I’m on this side of the bed” self. In doing that, we start creating micro-goals: “I will fret about this bed. I will complain about this bed. I will feel hopeless about this bed.” So, now we have a mixed identity, our essential self is already on the other side of the bed, but there is a false self stuck on this side of the bed, and the false self is multiplying itself, tying to hold us here.
Back to real life
This kind of suffering is what we do all the time. You can feel it when you think about your goals. There’s this clawing, tugging that happens. The old remnants of your false self are trying to claw you back. We’re creating layer upon layer of suffering micro-goals, goals to create a tension against what we truly are. There are many micro-goals pulling on the side of the false self against the tug of the meta-goal of the essential self.
Time for a wake-up call
Your alarm clock has been going off continuously for a long time. Can you hear it now? It’s that shitty feeling you get throughout the day that your life is not perfect exactly the way it is right now. That’s the tug between your essential self and your false self, between your spirit and your ego, between your freedom and your chains. You can probably feel it right now. It’s happening all the fucking time! Beep, beep, beep! WAKE UP!
As soon as you notice that you feel shitty in any way, that you feel dissatisfied, or scared, or angry, or lonely, or anything negative or unpleasant, you know now that this is your alarm clock. Time to wake up.
But how do I wake up?
It’s so simple. This just a pragmatic habit that you have to develop through practice. The alarm clock goes off, and you notice it, and you take the following simple steps:
- What’s going on right now inside myself? (Hear the alarm sound.)
- What would I really like right now?
- Ultimately what would having that do for me? What’s the essential experience I’m craving?
- When in my life have I experienced this feeling? Or who do I know that must feel like that? Basically find the feeling within yourself. You know it must be there because otherwise you wouldn’t know that you want it.
- Amplify that feeling. Enjoy it. Revel in it. Welcome it. Celebrate it.
- Continue with your life.
What’s the point of this?
You stop yelling at the bed, “Get out of my way!” You naturally and effortlessly find yourself moving around, or over, the bed. The feeling of being on the other side of the bed is so pure and powerful, and you become so non-conflicted inside, that you effortlessly flow around, or over, the bed, to reach an external manifestation of your true internal reality. This is an amazing thing to witness.
Reality wants what you want
The more you practice this, the more it will become a habit. You will increasingly experience the effortless internal states associated with your goals. As you do that you will find reality responding effortlessly to adjust to match your primary internal reality. Opportunities will arise, or will become clear. You will feel inspiration. You will enter flow states. You will discover resources.
You will unshackle yourself from your old self, and slip effortlessly into your essential self more and more frequently, and external reality will respond more and more effortlessly.
Your old self will die
The more you do this, the more your old self will die. It won’t be getting energy any more. You’ll forget how to complain. You’ll forget how to put people down. You’ll forget how to suffer. Those are old, ineffective habits. You will remember how to wake up again and again. You will remember how to re-orient yourself to what you want. Your days will be spent in states of increasing enjoyment, flow, creativity, celebration, and your external reality will naturally and effortlessly flow and manifest in harmony with this. You will be in harmony with reality and reality will be in harmony with you. Paradoxically, everything will be perfect exactly the way it already is.
Visit your goals dojo daily
Make a list of goals. Start with one or two, and keep adding to it. Write them in the first person, and in the present tense. Make them specific and concrete. Make them initiated and sustained by yourself. Make them time bound. For example,
By January 26, 2019, my unmedicated blood-pressure will be consistently normal (between 120/80 and 90/60).
Every morning, first thing, review your list of goals, and for each, perform the wake-up procedure I detailed above. Really enjoy this process. I have come to love doing my goal reviews because it makes me feel so good.
You will inevitably keep falling asleep during the day. Get in the habit of hearing the alarm clock going off. Here are some of the signs that the alarm is going off:
- You feel physically shitty in a way that bothers you
- You feel anxious or scared
- You’re worrying
- You feel overwhelmed
- You’re arguing with someone
- Something bad happens in your life
- Something seems difficult or challenging
- Life is not flowing
- You’re not in a state of flow
- You feel stressed about anything
As soon as you notice the alarm going off, stop everything and do the wake-up procedure. You’re going to be doing this more and more throughout the day, until it becomes a continual practice. You’re going to be awake and enjoying your essence for a larger and larger percentage of your day. As this happens, physical reality is going to start flowing increasingly more smoothly.
Bookmark this article. Print it out. Stick it on your wall. Carry it in your pocket. Read it again, and again, and again. Practice every day, day and night. Practice as you fall asleep. Practice as you wake up. Let me know your progress. I’d love to to hear from you.
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