10 Basic Principles For Living With Others!

10 Basic Principles For Living With Others!

I have found that when you get along well with others, Life goes more smoothly. Now don’t get me wrong. When people make bad decisions. I am going to say something or let that decision they’ve made hang them.

But for me when I deal with children, teens and adults. I try to make the best decision for getting along. Whether I compromise or talk them into a compromise.

Life is to short to be always in constant discourse. I like harmony and peace, “getting along” with others without compromising morals and laws.

Like I have said in a few other post about character and living successfully with others. It takes time to learn new character traits and disciplines. So don’t beat yourself up if you are still having issues with others.

Famed writer and entrepreneur Napoleon Hill gave these 9 simple ways of getting along with other.

1. Go out of your way to speak a kind word or render some useful service where it is not expected.
2. Modify your voice to convey a feeling of warmth and friendship to those whom you address.
3. Direct your conservation to subjects of the greatest interest to your listeners. Talk with them rather that to them. Consider the people with whom you’re conversing as the most interesting in the world, at least for the moment.
4. Frequently soften your expression with a smile as you speak.
5. Never, under any circumstances use profanity or obscenity in your conservation.
6. Keep your religious and political views to yourself.
7. Never ask a favor of anyone you haven’t yourself helped at some time.
8. Be a good listener, inspire others to speak freely.
9. Remember that an ounce of optimism outweighs a ton of pessimism.
10. Close each day with this prayer (or one like, in your own words); “I ask not for more blessings but for more wisdom with which to make better use of the blessings I now possess. And give me, please, more understanding, that I may occupy more space in the hearts of my fellowmen by rendering more service tomorrow than I rendered today.”

I know it’s a lot to take in but write these down and memorize then along with the 8 Rules for Successful Living by Gordon Dean and 13 Character Traits from Benjamin Franklin. Let these traits become ingrained in you heart, soul and mind.

Live by them daily and you will find yourself getting along better with others who tend to aggravate you and make you mad or upset.

When we live in peace and harmony. Life is more peaceful and our days filled with joy and happiness.

So take action today read and re-read this and the other suggested post to change your ways and to get along with others. Please feel free to share this post with others who are having trouble getting along with others.

“And let the PEACE that comes from Christ rule in your hearts” Colossians 3:15

8 Rules for Successful Living by Gordon Dean

Gordon Dean was on a flight to San Juan, Puerto Rico when he and another fella was having an interesting conversation about life and how he Gordon tried to live his life by what he called “eight rules for successful living.”

Gordon wrote them down on a an envelope for the man just before the plane crashed. Gordon died but the other man lived.

Here are the 8 rules that Gordon Dean lived and died by:

1. Never lose your capacity for enthusiasm.

2. Never lose your capacity for indignation.

3. Never judge people; don’t “type” them too quickly. But in a pinch, always assume first that a person is good and that at worst is in the gray area between good and bad.

4. If you can’t be generous when it’s hard, you won’t be when it’s easy.

5. The greatest builder of confidence is the ability to do something — almost anything — well.

6. When that confidence comes, then strive for humility; you aren’t as good as all that.

7. The way to become truly useful is to seek the best that other brains have to offer. Use them to supplement your own, and give credit to them when they have helped.

8. The greatest tragedies in the world and in personal events stem from misunderstandings. Answer: Communicate!

Have you considered doing what Gordon Dean did for himself, by writing out your philosophy of life?

I don’t think that too many of us have. But I think that using Gordon’s 8 rules can help get us started on the right tract.

I think that a philosophy to live by is like a foundation to a building or an anchor that holds a boat steady in a storm. Just like these two example a philosophy keeps us strong and holds us tight in the difficult times of our lives.

A sound philosophy gives meaning and substance to our lives, and it means we can be depended upon by those who need and love us in their time of need.

Junius said it this way: “The integrity of men is to be measured by their conduct, not by their professions.”

What is your philosophy on life?

Have you ever sought out a philosophy on your life?

Why do we need a philosophy on life?

Whose philosophy do you live by? Mom, Dad, your Boss, co-worker, Pastor, Spiritual leader, who??

I think that we all need to examine our lives and follow the philosophies of Jesus, Gordon and Benjamin Franklin and his thirteen character traits.

Once you have laid out you beliefs, philosophies, standards, or motto to live by; write them down, memorize them, practice them, use them, share them with others.

Don’t waste another day wandering around aimlessly in this crazy mixed up world.

You won’t be perfect at them at first but you must keep trying to live by each of them.

I have incorporated Franklin’s 13 character traits into my life. But after reading Gordon’s philosophy on life I am going to readjust my beliefs and philosophies to help me live my life better.

I challenge you to do the same!

Here are Ben’s Thirteen Subjects that he lived by.

Character Traits from Benjamin Franklin

• Temperance — Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
• Silence- Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conservation.
• Order — Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
• Resolution — Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
• Frugality — Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e. waste nothing.
• Industry — Lose no time; be always employed in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
• Sincerity — Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
• Justice — Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
• Moderation — Avoid extremes, forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
• Cleanliness — Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, clothes or habitation.
• Tranquility — Be no disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
• Chasity — Rarely use venery (sexual indulgence) but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation.
• Humility — Imitate Jesus and Socrates.

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