What To Do When Grief Overwhelms You?
What does your reality look like without your loved one?
Yesterday I was listening to TED talks.
I find it always inspirational to hear personal stories and how people overcome challenges in their own unique way. We can all learn from each other.
One woman described a dream she had after her husband died.
She was driving in a car, knowing the destination and looking forward to the drive there. It was a sunny day.
All of a sudden a big rock fell out of nowhere directly in front of her car destroying the road in front and landing her in a ditch.
She was stranded.
The car had no fuel. And she realized she was sitting on the passenger side.
She knew that the rock was the death of her husband.
She wasn’t surprised that she was sitting on the passenger side because he often drove when they where on the road.
His death destroyed the road they were on.
Their future together was gone.
She didn’t see any other road ahead.
Her car was without fuel. She didn’t have the energy to move forward.
She was not able to take the steering wheel.
What would it take for her to get out of this situation?
Perhaps friends and family members stop by and
- bring fuel
- try to push the car out of the ditch
- one might take the steering wheel to get the car moving again
- some come by to give her advice on how she could just move over to the drivers side and start the car
Will that help her?
Have you experienced grief? What helped you?
What did you do when you felt out of energy and not able to take another step forward?
Each and everyone of us is so unique that we have our own answers.
For me it was painting and writing when my mother died. Walking in nature and reaching out to friends are my other go to strategies.
If you are in the middle of grief. Take a moment to think about this next question.
What would you do if that accident would happen in real life?
I am quite sure that you would take out your cell phone and ask 911 for help. Or call a friend with a tow truck. (smile)
It is OK to ask for help.
I wish you that you will find the help you need today.
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Originally published at www.healingforgrievinghearts.com.
