When Are You Healing After A Loss?
When does the healing start? Is it when you find a balance between despair and joyful memories of your loved one that has died? Or does it start sooner when you care for a family member that is sick?
The other week I met a woman at a networking event. She shared her experience with me.
She had looked after her mother for the last couple of years.
Her mother had Alzheimer’s.
She had to say good-bye to the mother that had raised her, to the friend that had been there for her when no-one else was, to the laughter and hardships of life they had shared.
The strong woman she had known disappeared before her eyes.
Going through that process she grieved all those parts of their life together.
She said good-bye to her mother in many ways over the years.
When her mother died her friends told her that she was now finally able to grieve the loss of her mother.
But it was not grief that she was feeling.
I’m in a state of healing after all the years of saying good-bye. Finally I’m able to heal.
In that moment, I could feel the love she shared with and for her mother.
And the joy of her soul that she spoke her truth.
Wherever you are on your healing path take one step at the time to move forward.
You are healing.
What is it you need to move from overwhelming grief to a calmer state of healing?
If you feel OK to share your experience please do so in the comments. You might just help someone else.
I will be glad to respond to every comment.
Take good care, Jacqueline
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Originally published at www.healingforgrievinghearts.com.
