The misconception of "You know you want it"
And how to free yourself from it
For many men, the notion that every woman wants a dick, shapes their perception of women. I hear it all around being tossed by “real men” in their “real men” peer group and beyond. It’s also widely rejected and condemned by the proponents of the struggle for gender equality. They usually regard it as a far from the truth misogynistic way of thinking. I say there is some truth in it, just not the kind of truth many men believe in.
Despite the long cultural conditioning throughout the history, more and more women today are discovering their sexuality and becoming as sexual as men (or, as one of my readers noted, becoming less repressed and expressing their sexuality more freely). A lot of them really do want a dick, but that doesn’t mean they want your dick.
Each one of us (being man or woman) has it’s own approach to sexuality. Some like to practice it monogamously, some like to have many partners, some need an emotional connection, some do it just for fun and pleasure, some have complex triggers of sexual attraction… But a common denominator for all of us, even for the most promiscuous people, is that none of us wants to have sex with everybody. We all experience attraction and decide about engaging in sex in our own unique way. Realizing that, will change your perception of women’s (and your own) sexuality and help you find a woman (or women if that’s your preference) who really wants your dick. So, instead of sticking firmly to the belief behind “you know you want it”, try to rethink your sexuality. Try to introspect on what kind of woman you really want (the one which is a “fuck yes”), what kind of women would want you, and where this wants intersect. If this intersection comes out as too small, rethink your sexuality again and see what can you do (inside yourself) to change your odds.
Believing that every woman wants your dick is a misconception which, if you continue to believe it, can bring you a lot of trouble. It will bring you rejection and disapproval by many women and narrow down your choice of possible sexual partners. In the end it can bring you sexual encounters which you don’t truly desire, and lead you away from the women which are your “fuck yes”. Eventually it will, once it clashes with reality, surely help you get frustrated and shamed, but it won’t help you find the woman who wants your dick.
