The “Right” Way To Raise Kids? Balance & Love Are Enough
Parenting is a deeply personal journey, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. It is often about what suits best for you and your child, learning and adapting along the way.
I have never really delved into the concept of parenting styles or followed any particular one as some of us might have. I didn’t even know the types of parenting styles until recently. For new parents, having some knowledge on this topic may help. Nevertheless, bringing up children is something that comes naturally, depending on our innate temperament, and we need not be psyched about it.
According to research, cultural backgrounds influence how families function and children are raised, encompassing social norms, values, language, and behavior. Every parent has a different approach to bringing up, interacting with, and guiding their children.
There’s no such thing as a perfect parent; So just be a real one — Sue Atkins
4 Main Parenting Styles
Authoritarian — parents establish rules that the child has to obey, inadvertently leading to a one-way communication. There is negligible room for negotiation.
Authoritative — parents provide clear guidelines of their expectations while nurturing open communication. Thus developing close, nurturing relationships with their children. Punishment is more of a way of support.
Permissive parents are warm and nurturing, having minimal or no expectations. Parents allow children to figure things out for themselves, and there is open communication.
Uninvolved parents — parents fulfill the child’s basic needs while remaining largely detached from their children’s lives. Children are given a lot of freedom, but communication is limited. There may be a lack of emotional support.
Initially, a child’s upbringing affects his/her behavior. As they grow older, other factors shape their conduct — social circle, job, environment, and place of residence.
Also there may be a difference of opinion between how a father and mother decide to raise their children. However, the majority of parents today tend to fall under either authoritative or permissive parenting styles.
Beyond Labels: Raising Children With Balance and Love
(Examples Of Parenting Styles From My Experience)
I recall my mother telling us often about her strict, disciplinarian Dad, who had rules and regulations in place. Restrictions were imposed on her going out with friends, socializing, the way she and her siblings dressed, and so on. It may seem surprising now, but in those days, women had to dress and behave in a particular way. He was an authoritarian father who believed in the maxim of spare the rod and spoil the child. She resented it till later on, as she couldn’t enjoy her college days much. That’s why she was a cool mom, who allowed us a lot of freedom. Though at times a bit uninvolved in our lives.
I have seen working parents, who are comfortable leaving their young children in the hands of a nanny, or at a daycare center. They may appear to be uninvolved, but then, do they have any other options? The fortunate ones whose parents stay with them have the advantage of their kids being looked after by grandparents!
I have come across parents of teens who’ve grounded (a term used for a form of punishment) their kids for breaking rules set for them, and crossing timelines. They’ve not been allowed to attend birthday parties or outings and had their phones taken away from them. I would not do that, but it is their choice, and it obviously works for them.
My own parenting style has been a combination of permissive, and authoritative, though I have never given it a thought. I am satisfied with the way I have handled my children. Just let things come naturally from your inner self, there’s nothing you need to learn or do correctly. As long as you take a balanced approach, give them quality time, love, and support!
