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What Finding Happiness and Baking Cakes Have in Common
Why you must learn to bake a cake to understand happiness
“How can I find happiness?”
I’ve wrestled with that question for a long time, over and over again (who hasn’t?).
But it was only recently that I realized the first step is to treat happiness like baking a cake.
The real meaning of “I was happy”
Trying to chase “the” happiness doesn’t work. By pursuing “it” we break down happiness into a single emotional state.
To understand this think about a time in your life that, looking back at it, was a happy time. For me, those were my teenage years.
I had a loving mother, a (sometimes annoying) little sister, and the cutest family dog. We lived in a cozy house with a lush, green garden. My time outside school (where I did well) was filled with playing soccer and video games with friends, visiting my grandparents, and reading.
But was I in a blissful state of happiness and joy constantly? Of course not.
I’ve gone through the same insecurities, social drama, and heartbreaks every teenager experiences. I fought with my mother and sister, and I dreaded going to school.
