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You Can Be Ordinary and Also Be Worthy of Love
When will you understand that you’ve always been enough — just because you are you?
When I first started dating a body builder, I knew I had some worthiness work to do.
His body: Immaculate. Muscular. Conventionally attractive. Other men would literally stop him on the street to tell him how good he looks and how they want a body like his.
My body: Ordinary. Weak. Bloated. A lil’ derpy.
(According to me & my worthiness wounds, that is.)
I was dead set on getting more fit, though. So even though I would get triggered to high heaven every time I stepped in the gym to work out with him, I kept going.
But I’m not going to lie…some days in the gym were extremely hard.
The gym we worked out at was always full of other women that might as well be fitness influencers. Other women that I told myself would “fit” better with my boyfriend. Other women that were so much more conventionally attractive and strong and not bloated.
Even just the presence of these women would set my nervous system on fire. It would either drive me to work out harder to be “better” than them one day, or it derailed me into…
