Phases of Adulthood
Bade hone ka matlab shadi karna, bacche paida karna, naukri karna nahi hota.
Bade hone ka matlab hota hai tumhare dil ajeej logo ko jaate hue dekhna, unki bimari handle karna hota haii.
This is adulting, that is not adulting.
These are the words from one of my favorite writers and stand-up comedian Zakir Khan.
The lines made me reevaluate how I view my life.
I recently turned 20 years old, and already feel the pressure from society to fit into the expectations that other people have established.
Like degree nahi hogi to naukri nahi hogi
Naukri nahi hogi to koi baap beti nahi dega
Bank credit card nahi degi, duniya respect nahi degi.
P.s One of my favorite dialogues from the movie 3 Idiots 😂
I’m not against you enjoying life or having fun, though. You get to choose how you want to live your life. There are moments in this busy existence when we forget how important our loved ones are. We frequently take them for granted and prioritize other things that we believe are more essential than them, but they are not. Trust me.
Little acts of kindness towards our loved ones, such as spending time with them, feeding them at least one meal a day, listening to their opinions without passing judgment, and cracking jokes together would mean the world to them. The brief amount of time you spend with them can make them happier than you could ever imagine.
There are several possible reasons why you are unable to spend time with them. It could be related to your job, your dislike of their attitude towards particular issues, unspoken animosities you may harbor against them, and other factors. Simply forgive them and learn to let go of any resentment you may have against them.
We are the source of our parents' power.
Your parents will not become old just by virtue of their age; rather, they will age if they are not involved in any activities at all.
They take great satisfaction in providing for their kids. Even the little things, like preparing meals for you or looking after you, count. Maintaining their interest in whatever you are doing is preferable. For them, even seemingly insignificant activities like laughing together and sharing your day would be extremely important. Through these brief moments we share with them, they generate energy.
Whether you choose to call it magic or not, you or a loved one will pass away from this world eventually. Either you or your children will go burn corpses and return home. They’ll be buried, return home, and refuse to see you for a long time.
That’s just life!
Make sure you are giving them time. Being someone who will support them during their difficult struggles. Being the one on whom they can rely as they become older and want affection.
As life progresses,
You don’t realize the influence of elders until their shadow is upon your head. When it departs, you understand the value it held, the courage it bestowed upon you.
What do you think? Do share your thoughts in the comments!
Don’t forget to follow the writer & the Pub😀
