7 Ways to be Friends with Your Co-Workers

By Pastor Brad Deetscreek

Being friends with your co-workers can be tough. For one thing, you are at your job to work. We can’t forget that fact. As Christ-followers, we want to be people who are known for working hard, because we believe God cares about how we work. But I also believe we can work hard and still build friendships in our workplaces. One thing that helps is proximity: we see our co-workers day in and day out. This consistency makes connecting easier. When you’re looking for ways to build friendships with your co-workers, here are some simple things that may help:

1. BE FRIENDLY

A simple greeting and friendly “Hello!” can go a long way. As you begin your workday, just start saying “Hi” or “Good morning” or “‘Sup?” (used most often by those raised in the late 80s or early 90s) or whatever your customary greeting is.

2. LOOK PEOPLE IN THE EYE

When you’re talking to someone, look them in the eye. This shows them that they are noticed and can actually help them feel valued.

3. ASK QUESTIONS

When time allows, feel free to ask them questions about themselves. Too many of us are obsessed with talking about ourselves, but asking questions can create the opportunity for the conversation to be a shared experience, for you to actually get to know each other.

4. LOOK FOR COMMON GROUND

Find conversation points that are easy for you to engage them with. There has to be something you have in common, find it and use that as a good place to start.

5. DON’T COMPLAIN

Too many people complain with co-workers; they complain about their job or about their bosses. This isn’t being a good friend, this isn’t good for anybody.

6. DON’T ALWAYS EAT LUNCH ALONE

IF you are able to break away for lunch, see if someone can join you and use that time to get to know your co-worker.

7. MAKE FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE OF THE SAME GENDER

Being a good friend can quickly be mistaken for attraction or being flirty, and ain’t nobody got time for that.