How Mindfulness Could Be The Key to Rejuvenating Your Dating Life
Mindfulness as a movement has gained a rave following in recent years. It places the most emphasis on a heightened physical presence and awareness of one’s surroundings. While the human mind is capable of being present naturally, it cannot always do this given the myriad of problems faced by many today. Given that love requires being present to grow, being caught up in the worries of the past or the uncertainty of the future, becomes a challenge to finding love.
Applying the principles of Mindfulness to the dating sphere, understanding that to be better lovers, we need to be present lovers. Here’s how mindfulness could help to make your dating experience a more enriching and fulfilling one.
Using Meditation
The primary purpose of meditation in mindfulness therapy is to let your mind drift blissfully and freely. Your mind needs to become a vacuum of sorts; a space free of thoughts. Instead of being consumed by the obstacles faced in your love life, the best alternative is to breathe in, accept what it is you went through for a fleeting moment and then gradually exhale these troubles. In place of these worrying thoughts, it is best to focus on minute sensations, sounds, and vibrations around you. This could be the sound of a woman’s voice in the distance. A dripping tap. Leaves rustling in the wind. Savor these momentous treasures. You are not the problems you went through, and a positive romantic experience is just along the corner. All that is needed is tranquility and patience.
Asking Mindful Questions
When the term mindfulness comes to mind, a vast majority of people only think of its meditative benefits. They do not realize that there is an element of in-depth inquisition to it too. Questions about our dating journey that we ask our inner conscious tend to be the most profound. Some questions you could ask yourself are:
What do I want out of this romance?
What am I grateful for in this romance?
What romantic memory brings me joy?
How can I be more positive in this relationship?
How can I be kinder to my date?
What are the things that I can say and do that will make me a better lover?
Nevertheless, it’s crucial to note that our inner conscious may not always have all the answers to these questions. Sometimes that’s okay! Indulging in a constant obsession where all one does is seek answers to the impossible questions is not very healthy either. Preferably, the best course of action would be to appreciate what you can answer and mentally ‘shrug’ at the ones you can’t. Perhaps they may be answered another day or perhaps not. It does not matter. What truly matters is the positive awareness you feel as a result of the questions. Tap into the positivism of this awareness, and you’ll feel much better for it, while on a date or when contemplating the matters of love.
Mindful Loving
While mindfulness can be an individual effort, it is crucial to note that there is a communal aspect to it too. This extends itself to the realm of dating perfectly given that dating is a joint effort. When you have internalized the positivity yourself, passing on this energy to someone else becomes second nature. Conversely, your dating partner could do the same. This would intensify the connection you share with your partner and increase the trust between you and them. Mindful loving leads to a conscious, romantic relationship in this way. Engaging in an active yet peaceful discussion about mindful loving is also quite beneficial.
Thus, in these ways, it’s quite apparent that the institution of mindfulness is most certainly one that translates into the realm of romance. Instead of swiping mindlessly, we can start dating mindfully and find a more profound connection with our romantic identities as well as our lovers. How do you love more mindfully? Do let us know in the comments! 😊
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