What To Do When You Have a Crush on Your Best Friend
You’ve known each other for, who knows how long. You know what they like to eat, their favorite hang out spots, their favorite sayings… Maybe you have even started noticing how they smell, or you’ve started wanting to be closer to them than you are…
You might be having a crush on your best friend.
Here’s what to do when you have a crush on your best friend.
Step 1) Take a deep breath. Calm down!
Know that this is perfectly normal. If you’re spending huge amounts of time with anyone, their familiarity will start to feel comfortable. They might even start to look attractive. No need to stay up all night thinking about this person, pulling your hair out and asking — What do I do? Should I tell him? Should I tell her? He/she is already attached! Ahhhh. Try to understand that this is a normal emotion. You don’t have to do anything about this emotion. It is just an emotion.
If you really HAVE to do something about this emotion… then
Step 2) Ask yourself — can I really see myself being in a relationship with this person
Feeling that someone is familiar doesn’t mean that you should be in a relationship with them. That is just staying in your comfort zone. Stay rational. You’ve seen how this person treats their family, their friends, strangers. You know how this person treats you. You have seen their values in action. Are they in sync with yours? Stay rational and think about this before you do anything!
Step 3) Ask other friends around you for feedback!
If you are reasoning facilities are stumped by the strong sense of infatuation / crush you are feeling at the moment, ask for feedback! Ask your friends — Is this person good for me? If you don’t remember all those times you’ve complaint about how awful this person has been before, they will remind you!
Sometimes it’s better to take a step back than to take a step forward. If your best friend is already in a relationship, it’s time to take a step back. That could mean spending less time with them or texting them lesser.
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