8 Ways Men In Hollywood Have Failed To Apologize

Serena Vora
Jan 16, 2018 · 4 min read
Women of Hollywood and Inspiring Activists at the 2018 Golden Globes
  1. Sexual identity should never be used as an excuse for what happened or to divert attention from the allegations. Not only is it irrelevant to the situation but it also hurts the community as a whole by reinforcing negative stereotypes. I’m looking at you, Kevin Spacey.
  2. Apologies should never try and make people feel sorry for the crew/employees on all of the projects that are now canned because a perpetrator wanted to force themselves on women. Everyone is aware of how business works, an apology should not deflect from the topic and accusation. An apology can be sent to the crew in a separate statement.
  3. Going to a luxurious spa retreat for a week to get help for the “problem” isn’t a solution. Psychologists and Psychiatrists are conflicted over whether sex addiction even exists. And people who have been diagnosed with some kind of addiction are not “cured” in a week.
  4. Giving no comment is just as bad as a terrible apology. By not even acknowledging the situation, it shows the perpetrator has no respect for survivors. Historically, women (and other survivors) have avoided reporting sexual harassment concerning men in powerful positions. Therefore, it takes an immense amount of courage for someone to come out and share their story. A perpetrator can’t slip away into self-exile before apologizing and think they’ll be forgiven when deciding to reappear.
  5. Being married to a woman and/or having a daughter/mother/sister does not excuse a perpetrator from what they did when they claim to have been less informed, so they should never be used as a crutch. It is very unfair to the women in their life.
  6. Youth or having lived in a different time will never excuse committing sexual harassment or abuse. Whether or not perpetrators were taught to treat others with respect from a young age, this is never an excuse for sexual harassment or sexual assault.
  7. You cannot call your statement an apology if it doesn’t include the word ‘apologise’ or ‘sorry’. Louis CK’s 400 word apology letter manages to completely avoid this.

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