Reader, I Looked At Her Pie …

Jim Dee
Jim Dee
Nov 21, 2019 · 2 min read

Post from an old blog from 1–14–08:

In the grocery store last night, I bumped into an old friend I hadn’t seen in years.

“Oh my God, Jim,” she said. “You look incredible! You’ve lost weight!”

“Thanks … yeah.” (I’m not sure how else to respond to these kinds of awkward situations. But it’s true; I’m probably 40–45 lbs. lighter than when I used to ride the bus home with this woman.)

“How’d you lose the weight?”

“Oh, you know, mostly I just changed my diet. I eat a lot of fruits and veggies.”

At this point, my old friend began outlining her struggle with weight and cholesterol. As she did, I admit that I scanned her cart and, though I honestly didn’t mean to, fixed my gaze on a large pumpkin pie therein for maybe two entire seconds.

She followed my gaze down to the pie. I was busted.

Immediately, she began making excuses for having the pie, and I really felt awful. “I’m sorry,” I said. “I wasn’t being judgmental … or, at least, I didn’t consciously intend to be …”

Thankfully, she didn’t seem to take offense. So, I quickly made light of it: “But, hey, pie probably doesn’t have much cholesterol, right? I’m not sure if pie does or doesn’t. Probably just meat and dairy. Anyway, a little pie now and then … But, seriously, how are your kids?”

The moral: Try as I may to not be an asshole, it emerges naturally from time to time. A single glance downward and I hurt this woman’s feelings. I feel pretty shitty about that glance.

✍🏻 Jim Dee maintains his personal blog, “Hawthorne Crow,” and a web design blog, “Web Designer | Web Developer Magazine.” He also contributes to various publications. Find him at, his Amazon Author page, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, Medium, or via email at Jim [at] His latest novel, CHROO, is available on If you enjoy humorous literary tales, please grab a copy!

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Tales, rants, observations — blog of Jim Dee, long-haired smart ass, self-employed web developer, hyper-creative writer, musician, renaissance man, defiant, prone to philosophization, as-always a pyro, ever-frustrated cat owner, free agent, bandanna wearer.

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