Why Isolation Makes Healing From Narcissistic Abuse Worse
I know you don’t want to hear it, but a big part of healing is learning to be okay in relationships again.
A childhood of narcissistic abuse left me feeling not just lonely — but isolated from others.
While I’ve more or less had some friends on the outside, I’ve always felt so isolated on the inside. I’ve felt alone in here for a very long time.
I thought I had to do all of my healing alone because every time I tried to talk about how I was feeling, I would be met with either criticism, withdrawal, or a list of all the things I need to do to fix myself. It was extremely painful to receive this invulnerable response from others after I shared what was most vulnerable to me.
So I learned not to share and to try and figure it out on my own. This kept me stuck in circles, cycling through shame spirals and creating extreme parts of me that carried the burden of having to live a life completely alone inside.
Looking back, this profound inner loneliness is the most painful part of my narcissistic abuse.
But since my divorce, I learned it didn’t have to be this way. I learned that there were coaches out there who could meet me at the depths of my pain and…
