We Learned Our Core Beliefs as Children Trying to Fit Into Chaos
You cannot make a long-term change in behaviors without addressing the beliefs that underlie them… Most humans try to change things by focusing on behaviors. They keep thinking they can make things better by doing something. So, everyone is running around trying to figure out what they can do. The focus is on doing something, rather than on believing something. But radical forces within your societies have always sought to change things by using the power of thought, not action, for they know that thought produces action. Get a person thinking a certain way and you can get a person to act a certain way. It is not easily done the other way around. Neale Donald Walsch
From Reordering My Days “I learned early the best way to survive was to fly under my mother’s radar. Do what I was told, when I was told, exactly as I was told. Her way was/is the only right way. No exceptions.”
From Inner Critic “My inner critic is a bitch. She’s strong. And she’s smart. She knows exactly how to play the game, waiting for just the right time to open her mouth. Right when I’m feeling I’m about to do something good or have something amazing happen to me. “Hold on a minute, Jami…who do you think you are?””
From Core Beliefs and Self Acceptance “Core beliefs dictate the rules we live by. Everybody has them. They are formed in the early years of our lives, and they are based on our thoughts about our experiences, about the things we see other people do, and about the advice others give us while we are growing up.”
“Because core beliefs are formed early in life they are steeped in child-like and adolescent thinking. There is nothing wrong with adolescent thinking, but one should be aware that this thinking lacks the insight and understanding that comes with greater life experiences.”
Originally published at http://kathyberman.com on January 22, 2020.
