It’s Time to Love Your Body Back
Did you ever realize how much your body loves you?
It’s always trying to keep you alive. It’s making sure you breathe while you sleep, stopping cuts from bleeding, fixing broken bones, finding ways to beat the illness that might get you. Your body literally loves you so much. It’s time you start loving it back.
Checkout this great article on treating your body right from Elayna Fernandez, of The Positive Mom.
My 14-year-old daughter sent me a meme with those words and tears rolled down my cheeks. I cried tears of joy for raising such a wise daughter and tears of sadness because I knew I needed this reminder right now, and maybe more than ever.
I have always been in love with my mind and been purposeful with my spirituality, but I have neglected my body.
Yes, I eat right and I don’t get sick, I am usually at my healthiest weight — give or take 5 lbs. depending on whether we went on a Disney Cruise, because well, even vegans indulge on a magical vacation.
But I haven’t really treated my body like it belongs to someone I love. I have not fully embraced my body.
They always told me I was the ugly duckling and I believed it. They told me I was brilliant, a genius, the smart one, but it was very clear that I was NOT pretty. And when I started getting validation that I was desirable, I felt like an object, a set of body parts that gained unwanted attention, the type that causes you trauma and endless pain.
For years, I would ignore my body, criticize my body, treat my body poorly, blame my body, insult my body, and fantasize with having a different body, and even plan on harming my body. I failed to set boundaries and standards on how others treated my body and then I berated myself for it.
I realize I am not my body (I was in a coma for eight days and I could see my body laying there while I was over it somewhere, able to hear, able to see, able to think), but my body is part of my journey. I have received strict divine instructions to be sensitive to my body, to take care of my body, to love my body, and to treat my body as my temple, but so many voices tell me my body is not worthy.
Back when I started my business as a single mom of toddlers and I worked full time. I often “forgot” to eat, I didn’t sleep much, and I didn’t respect my body. I told myself daily I was too old, too ugly, too fat, too short, and too beat up, and that is why no one loved me. My body was not enough.
When I quit my 9–5 to devote myself to the mompreneur life, I fell in a trap. As an entrepreneur, you don’t clock out, you’re always trying to get something done because all decisions rest upon your shoulders, you’ve got deadlines to meet, networking to be done, administrative tasks to complete, and sometimes you’re not even drawing a salary but have plenty of bills to pay. Plus, I had to do the work of both mom and dad, trying to raise my daughters well.
The stress, frustration, and lack of self-care can take a toll on you. It took me a couple of years to realize just how my unhealthy relationship with my body would impact my health, my ability to be the positive mom I’ve always wanted to be, and my business!
I ended up weighing 67 lbs. and battling ovarian cancer. And add the uncertainty and anxiety of not having health care options for myself. I didn’t realize back then that investing in health care is part of self care…Visit ThePositiveMom.com to read the rest of this article.