#4 Might Be Why You Suck at Going Down on a Woman

Every man’s guide to turning tolerated sex into craved sex.

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My day started like any other normal day, when you feel cranky and don’t know what to do with yourself. So Martin and I decided to do a little soul bonding.

Life at forty is messy. Some mornings, you wake up tired even though you went to bed early. There are bills stacked on the counter, unread emails blinking at you from three different inboxes, and a fridge that somehow has champagne but no milk.

Friends are getting divorced while others are posting family portraits on Instagram with captions about “gratitude.” Parents are aging fast, kids are growing up faster, and you’re caught in between — holding grief in one hand and a cocktail in the other.

Your body reminds you it’s not twenty anymore: knees ache after spin class, wine hits harder than it used to, and sex requires more than just a quick touch — it takes intention, effort, presence.

Some days you manage it all gracefully; other days, you cry in the car before walking into work like nothing happened.

Amidst all that, we still celebrate 40s with girlfriend getaways or exotic no-kids vacations with spouses, or make special family memories. We sing karaoke very loudly and off-key…