5 Signs During Sex That Your Partner Has Been Cheating
Look for these signs of infidelity.
When someone is cheating on you, it’s not always obvious.
That’s why it’s helpful to look for subtle (or not-so-subtle) signs during sex that your partner is straying into other pastures.
Cheating is never ok.
So, here are five signs during sex that your partner has been cheating.
They Are Bringing New Moves To the Party
After you have sex with someone for a while, you know all of their go-to moves.
You know the positions they like and the sequence of positions you usually enjoy together. In other words, there are few (if any) surprises when it comes to having sex with them.
So, if they suddenly break out a new move or a new position, they could be cheating.
For example, if sex with your partner usually looks like this:
- Missionary
- Girl on top
- Doggie style
But then suddenly looks like this:
- Missionary
- Polish Wheel-barrow
- Tiger Style
- Swiss Ball Blitz
Then, you probably need to ask a few questions. Questions like, “Where the hell did you learn those moves, buster?”
Inquiring (and slightly homicidal) minds want to know.
They Want More Sex
When their partners cheat, most people assume that their straying partners will not want sex as often.
While that is possible, it can also go in the other direction.
When someone’s libido is getting a regular dose of dopamine, then they can actually crave more sex. It’s like eating a few Doritos or Cheetos. The flavor explodes in your mouth, triggering a craving for more.
The same thing can happen when a partner cheats. They might initiate sex more often and be more ravenous when having sex.
Another reason cheating partners might want more sex is to avoid suspicion.
Anyone who has played poker knows that bluffing is an essential part of the game. When done correctly, bluffing can help you win big pots and put your opponents on tilt.
However, many players make the mistake of exaggerating their bluffs, going to extremes in order to try and convince their opponents that they have the winning hand.
This often backfires, as seasoned players can see through these bluffs and call them out.
The same thing happens to some cheaters.
In their attempt at a sexual bluffing game, they think, If I have a lot of sex with my partner, then they won’t suspect that I’m cheating.
Their Sex Is Selfish
When people cheat, they can become more selfish.
It’s as if they’ve given themselves permission to be selfish, and so they start to act that way in other areas of their lives as well. If they’re cheating on their partner, they might start to lie more or withhold information.
They might stop doing things that their partner wants them to do, or start doing things that their partner doesn’t want them to do.
In short, they start thinking only about themselves and what they want, without considering the needs of the people around them.
This can bleed over into their sex life with you.
They might:
- Start not caring about your orgasms
- Stop having sex after they orgasm
- Refuse your sexual kinks (when they were fine with them before)
- Seem like they are using you as a sex toy, not a person
They Want Different Sex
Just like coming in with different sex moves, a cheating partner might want totally different sex in general.
They might bring new kinks to the bedroom.
How did you learn that you like to be choked, mam? How did you figure out you enjoy pegging, sir?
It might be that they experienced new kinds of sex with someone outside of the relationship. Since change is unusual for most people, sweeping change like this can be a glaring red flag.
Your partner might be cheating.
What To Do If You See These Signs
If you think your partner is cheating, it can be tempting to immediately jump to conclusions.
However, it’s important to take a step back and consider the situation before you accuse your partner of anything. If you’re not sure what to do, there are a few steps you can take when you think your partner is cheating.
- Talk to your partner: This should be your first step any time you think something might be wrong in your relationship. Sit down with your partner and explain what you’ve been noticing. Give them a chance to explain themselves before jumping to any conclusions.
- Get some space: If things are feeling tense between you and your partner, it might be helpful to take a step back and give yourselves some space. This doesn’t necessarily mean breaking up, but it could mean spending some time apart until you’re able to calmly discuss the situation.
- Talk to trusted friends: If you’re still struggling to figure out what’s going on, talking to a trusted friend may be helpful. They can provide impartial guidance and help you figure out how to move forward.
- Gather evidence: If you’re pretty certain that your partner is cheating, then you might want to gather the evidence before taking any further steps. This could include things like texts or emails between your partner and the person they might be cheating with.
- Make a decision: Once you have all the information, it’s time to make a decision about what you want to do next. This is a difficult decision, but it’s one that only you can make. If you decide to stay in the relationship, try to focus on rebuilding trust. If you decide to leave, do so with caution and care for yourself first and foremost.
Final Thoughts
It’s important to remember that these signs don’t guarantee 100% that your partner is cheating.
Simply keep them in mind and ask your partner about them.
It’s possible that your partner has just been watching some new porn and wants to try something new with you.
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- Don’t Quietly Quit Your Sex Life
- This Is How You Know Your Sex Life Is Toxic
- How To Have Slow-Mo Sex
- The Science of Squirting: 17 Quick Answers
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