Bad Dating Profiles That Scare Good Men Away

My Grandma Ella was right on this one.

Carlyn Beccia
Published in
7 min readJul 27, 2024

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Dating Profiles That Scare Good Men Away
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I recently came across a viral TikTok video from a woman advocating that women create “bitchy” dating profiles. Her advice became so popular that other women began crafting similar bitchy dating profiles, and some even recycled her exact words.

Her profile read:

“Here’s my Top 10 List of what I *don’t* want:” (emphasis not added).

  1. Hookups
  2. “Hey” messages
  3. “What’s up” messages
  4. “You up?” messages
  5. Anyone who’s “living life to the fullest”
  6. A 55-year-old man who “wants kids some day”
  7. Anyone whose profile is written in “second-person directive” voice that directs me how *I* should be. Here’s an example: “You should be fun-loving, honest, easy-going, and fit.”
  8. Anyone who’s easily offended by dark humor (or this list)
  9. Texting maniacs. I use texting for logistics, not actual communication.
  10. Party boys, in all iterations. I’m a family-oriented grownup with my life together, looking for same.

I don’t even have enough blood left in my veins to dissect this cantankerous malarky. If a man had…

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Carlyn Beccia
Heart Affairs

Award-winning author of 13 books. My latest: 10 AT 10: The Surprising Childhoods of 10 Remarkable People, MONSTROUS: The Lore, Gore, & Science. CarlynBeccia.com