Dating Success Is Not A “Numbers Game”
Online dating sucks because people don’t read bios.
Online dating is awful. That’s something a lot of people seem to agree on. But it wasn’t until I started getting back to dating apps again that I thought: Was it always THIS awful?!
Recently, I’ve been out of the dating pool to finish a passion project. When that was done, I reinstalled the Bumble dating app. For mysterious reasons, that app seems to give me better-quality matches.
I uploaded a couple of photos and added interest tags. Then I wrote my bio:
“Creative exchanges and talks about passion. Let’s geek out on movies, books, and award-winning PC games. Oh, and if you open with a plain ‘hi’ or GIF message, I’ll assume you’re here for a hookup (no shame in that!) because you didn’t bother to read my bio:)”
Yes, my bio is long in the same way that YouTube videos are long, compared to TikTok videos. But I wanted to see who among my matches would read it.
To warm up, I started with Bumble BFF — the app’s make-friends-not-hookups section. Bumble BFF works just like Bumble Dating: People swipe left or right based on the person’s photos.
Since people on BFF are looking for friends, they’d at least read my bio, right? They’d look at my…
