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How Much Insecurity is Too Much in a Relationship?
What’s the dealbreaker boundary line for a lack of trust?
Lots of us have been betrayed during our romantic relationship histories, however, there is always the hope that we can eventually move on from those negative or traumatizing experiences and begin sustaining new, healthy relationships based on mutual trust and respect.
That said, when we are in relationships and carrying the baggage of being lied to or cheated on in the past, how much mistrust and/or insecurity is normal, and how much is too much?
What if you observe your partner looking at an attractive person? Is that a dealbreaker for you?
Unreasonably insecure people who exhibit extreme jealous behavior, as in jealousy to the point where they track their partner’s movements or hire private detectives to watch them, undoubtedly have some serious issues going on.
If I notice my husband giving a glance to an attractive woman, I can either react the way I would have 15 years ago as a younger woman, rushing to judgment based on my emotions and immediately thinking he wants to leave me, OR I can realize that he’s simply glancing at an objectively attractive person.
