Have You Tried Intentional Distancing For Greater Intimacy?
Fire needs air. So does your relationship. Take these two steps.
“Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.” — Esther Perel
Ever broke up with someone who wanted you back as soon as you started to show interest in someone else? If so, what makes you think that when things stall in your relationship, spending even more time together is going to grow your desire?
For whatever reason, when you think about getting closer to your loved one, taking a step back isn’t probably the first thing that crosses your mind. But what if intentionally creating distance proves to be an effective way to foster intimacy and make your partner seek your presence even more than before?
Fire needs air, right? Partners need to be able to breathe. To feel independent and in control. Yet so many people wrongly assume that being in a happy relationship means spending all your time together.
Have you kind of lost that feeling of desire you used to have in the beginning? Or it’s not you, it’s him the one who seems to have lost interest in you? In any of these situations, getting closer is, perhaps, the worst thing you can do.
