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He’s Just Not That Into You
How many times do you need to hear it?
I stopped in a Chipotle yesterday to grab a bite for the hubs and me, and while waiting for my order, I overheard a woman behind me talking on her phone.
She didn’t have the caller on speaker, thank goodness, but from her side of the convo, it was obvious that she was talking to another woman, and they were discussing a man.
“So, when did you text him…what time yesterday…maybe he left his phone in the car…well maybe he’s busy at work today…he hasn’t had a chance to call you yet…give him some time…
It took everything I had not to slap the phone right out of her hand.
How many ways does this have to be said? How many movies and TV series do we need to make this point once and for all?
If you have to guess about a man’s feelings for you, as Carrie’s friend Berger said in the series Sex And The City —
“He’s just not that into you.”
Let’s go over the facts again
If he hasn’t called you, and he’s made no effort to see you, he’s just not that into you.
If you have a date and he doesn’t show and doesn’t call, but sends you a short text some hours later, he’s just not that into you.
If you’re stalking him, waiting outside his office or his house, calling and texting him three, four, or five times before he responds, guess what? He’s. Just. Not. That. Into. You.
Don’t jump through hoops, begging for his attention. If you’re begging for attention now, you will be begging for the duration of your time together.
Many women have no idea what it feels like when a man really is into her, though. And that’s sad.
My very first boyfriend was into me until he wasn’t. Then there was a long string of bums and honestly, I didn’t know what feeling cherished and adored was like until I met the man I would marry.
What does it feel like when he really is into you?
When a man is into you, you will hear from him every day. You’re the first person he wants to talk to in the morning, and the last person he wants…
