How I Helped My Boyfriend Overcome His Fear of Sex

Without hurting his ego.

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When I first met Ross, I knew there was something special about him.

He had this calm demeanor and a thoughtful way of listening that drew me in, but there was one thing that felt like a wall between us — he avoided the topic of sex like it was the plague.

I’ll admit, I was nervous to bring it up because, in the past, my high libido had scared off more than a few men.

So one evening, I decided to test the waters. “You know,” I said, trying to sound casual, “my high sex drive has been a deal-breaker for a lot of guys I’ve dated.”

I watched his face carefully, hoping for some reassurance. But instead, he chuckled nervously and said, “I guess that’s my cue to leave.”

It stung, even though he was joking. Something about the way he avoided eye contact told me there was more to the story.

I didn’t push right then, but over time, as we grew closer, I gently nudged him to open up.

One night, as we lay on the couch after dinner, I asked, “Ross, do you ever feel like… maybe this isn’t just about me? Like maybe you’re holding back because you’re dealing with something too?”