This Is How Often Real Couples Are Having Sex — And How It’s Affecting Their Relationships

Does quantity even matter?

Michelle Brown
Published in
4 min readJun 4, 2020

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How often do you and your partner have sex? Once a week? Twice a month? Every day? Rarely?

These are all of the varied answers from real long-term couples — whether they've been together ten years, two years, or decades.

I think it’s generally fair to suggest that a ‘long-term couple’ can be a pair of people who have been in a relationship for longer than approximately two years. These partners have probably been introduced to family members and there may even be cohabitation or children involved as a result of the relationship.

But what about sex?

How is the actual time and energy a couple is investing in sex affecting their relationship?

The answers are surprisingly varied — depending on each situation.

For instance, I know one couple who are best friends and highly compatible life partners yet they haven’t been sexually intimate in years.

The reasons for this are complicated and sensitive but even with the looming sexual frustration surrounding the relationship, this couple has stuck together for many other positive things like their mutual respect for one another…

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Michelle Brown

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