How Sexting Outside My Marriage Revitalized Our Sex Life

Over 60% of mediocre marriages face the risk of infidelity.

Eva Grape
Heart Affairs
Published in
6 min readMar 2, 2024


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Ever noticed how it’s usually the so-so marriages that end up flirting with cheating? If you’re super happy with your partner, you’re not out there looking for someone else. And if things are truly awful, you’re more likely to just call it quits.

But what if I told you there’s a secret way to turn a meh marriage into something better?

Let’s take my marriage, which is the definition of mediocracy with flavors of toxicity from time to time. I’ve been contemplating divorce more times than I can count in the past five years, yet it’s like that old, comfy couch. It’s familiar; it does the job, and let’s be honest, we have a kid together.

If you’re like me, you’re not miserable (all the time), but you’re not exactly throwing confetti around, either. You’re stuck in this weird middle ground where everything is fine, but ‘fine’ is just another word for boring.

Now, here’s where it gets interesting.

Most of us think that to spice things up, we need grand gestures, expensive vacations, or even worse, we start thinking the grass might be greener with someone else.