How To Find Lust in a Classifieds Site
The most beautiful experiences come unproclaimed.
They say people never change. I did. I was raised in a traditional Muslim patriotic household where men ruled and women were taught to meekly follow. I expected to have a meek lifestyle with my husband Ishaan. I was so head over heels in love with him, that I even worshipped the dust of his feet. Even though I never wanted to be his second choice and married him in the hope of drawing him toward me after the wedding, neither sex nor the kids could tie him to me.
Men never change. Once a flirt, always a flirt. But do women change? Of course, they do. A woman burning with jealousy loses her mind and does anything to tie her lover down. She cheats, submits, she dresses up, and plays strip tease, she even learns new sex tricks to satisfy her lover. And that’s what I did. In order to learn what was missing in me, I cheated on my husband to understand what it feels to be addicted to sex. To know if sex addiction could be a thing
Viola! It could be. Go at it open-mindedly, and even the deepest of sorrows and anger could be drowned in a combination of alcohol and lust. The only difference between a guy and a girl having a fling is, that a man could repeatedly have sex with the same person, without having a connection with him. The girl has a danger of being emotionally attached to him, so she should practice having sex with different men until sex and emotion can be treated as separate things.
Was I able to achieve this balance? It was hard. For the longest time, I was having a relationship with Ron. This relationship started as retaliation to Ishaan bringing home a second wife. This retaliation turned into love. I tended to compare the two men in all respects. I even went to the extent of testing the waters by telling Ishaan about my crush. I thought, he would be fair, and friendly, just as I had been in accepting his desire for bodies. Yes, he blindly told me that I would always be his first love, but he needed variety in sex.
He is a flirt. He still is a flirt after having a second wife, and I think I triggered his unfaithfulness to both myself and Saskia by confiding in him. I told him very casually about my newfound fetish for sex. I told him I experimented a bit to get to know what he felt so that I could better accept his unfaithfulness. And suddenly, my world came tumbling down. My forward Pakistani hunk turned into the typical conservative man.
Ishaan has since, not by force, but tactfully, tried to take away our privilege. He fired the driver so we no longer are mobile. He refuses to drop the kids at the bus stop so we are busy with homely chores. He unintentionally forgets to leave extra cash for our beauty treatments. Now thanks to my honesty, both Saskia and me are more or less caged in our home, while he goes along gallivanting with other mates.
But what about my changed, immoral self? I tried to experiment with my husband’s second wife, but I was addicted to a man’s bolder touch.
Ron has been keeping his distance too, as he sees no future there. He too is emotional and does not want to keep hanging onto a needle that can no longer be threaded. And I completely understand his decision. He is more emotional and serious than my very own husband, who I feel like I do not know at all.
I have always been a go-getter of things. With time, I have changed from a meek, submissive, devout woman, to a selfish, confident, immoral one. I do not feel sorry for the same, as you only live once. All mushrooms can be eaten, some only once. And with this attitude, I decided to turn to our online ad portal for sex. I had been trying to gather freelance business on a web portal and came across a stranger who was willing to pay 100 dollars just to let him rub his dick on my feet, with pantyhose.
Why not, I thought to myself. I agreed to eat the mushroom and see if I would survive. And man, am I glad I did.
No, we are not dating anymore. It was a one-time encounter and not a one-night stand. Not all sexy encounters have to end up in sex. I did feel the urge to give in and pounce on his masculine body, but I wanted to resist the temptation to increase my craving. The more I wanted the sex, the wetter I felt, and the more innovative ways I would discover to quench this thirst. Thereafter, I learned to enjoy a man’s touch for lust alone. I have learned to accept money for a sexual service and not feel like a slut. Maybe from an immoral woman, I have been reduced to a prostitute, but that’s not how I feel.
I feel loved and confident enough to have any man beneath my belt. The reason that I have been silent here so long, is that it has taken me this long to accept Ishaan’s misconduct. But I have now gotten over it. A few one-night stands at just classified sites have helped me cope with this stress.
Why classifieds and not tinder you ask? Because interesting encounters resulting from an app that does not want to be a dating app at all are all the more beautiful because they are unexpected. Just like cheating is more exciting than plain escort service.
Here are some tips to find yourself a non-toxic mushroom successfully
- Learn to draft your ad: No I am not asking you to be one of those freaks and say you are looking for a big cock for yourself and your wife. That would only land you in trouble. I am asking you to genuinely advertise a classified ad for an item in a subtle, sexy way.
I had advertised our burgundy soft velvet blanket. A very respectful man and interested. I could tell by his writing style that he was polished and interesting. I purposely prolonged the conversation and fixed up an appointment to see the blanket two weeks later. By then I understood he was interested in more than the blanket. We met, he liked the blanket, and we liked each other. But we did not end up under it until a month later.
We went for a few walks, drank a few coffees, and ended up with half a bottle of wine before we fell on each other. After having sex for the first time, I moved away. I did not want to repeat the same mistake and fall in love. Lust should remain lust until there is an intention to fall in love. I moved on to the next candidate.
2. Try to look beyond the text: You aren’t here to buy sex, you are here to meet interesting people you would like to accidentally hook up with. Know that you are not alone. There are many more lonely, depressed people looking to make tiny moments of this life interesting. Be optimistic and start by looking for similar interests.
I love indoor plants and I purposely contacted a man cultivating a few of those willing to share his produce. We met in his garden to do the same and exchanged a very refreshing stroll in his garden. This time I made the first move. He was taken by surprise but did not hesitate and played along. We had sex thrice until the danger of falling in love came to haunt us. I had to block him and move on to the next target. The quest of finding another mushroom distracted my emotion.
3. KISS: Keep it short and sexy stupid! Do not use traditional names like Wolfgang and Theodore. Use easy-to-use, common names like Tanja and Maria that make you sound ‘young and exciting. Use a lot of emojis to keep a friendly tone. Wherever possible, throw in subtle hints of romanticism, like I would stop over to see the sexy purse before heading to a cocktail party. This gives you a chance to dress up and use all your charm to entice.
4. Pay attention to who is writing the ad: Stay away from respondents who mention ‘we, family, my son, my daughter.’ That would be a waste of time for both parties.
5. Feeling adventurous? If you are open to bi-lesbian relationships and encounters, respond to women too. There are no boundaries until you yourself set them. You never know what appeals to you and what you really need, until you try it. Meet women during the day to make them feel more comfortable.
6. Last but not least: Know that not every mushroom is edible. Stay away from freaks. Pay heed to your intuition. Be ready for both good and worse surprises. Don’t expect every other encounter to be successful, and you won’t be disappointed either. Keep an open mind, and stay focussed on your goal.
Where there is a will, there is a way!
Thank you for reading. If you do try any of these tips, and they work for you, let me know. Your comments will help me deal better with the dilemma I am facing.
