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I Met the Perfect Man for Me
He’s my dating doppelganger.
A month ago I met a man. I’m going to call him my ‘O.R. guy.’ It’s representative of the restaurant where we met. He was there to meet a friend. I was grabbing a salad.
He was frank about his dating philosophy.
He’s my dating doppelganger.
We mirror one another. He doesn’t want to get married again, nor do I. He doesn’t want a commitment, nor do I. He doesn’t want anything serious, nor do I.
He wants to date.
He’s single for the first time in two decades.
That’s all I needed to hear.
No expectations is where I excel. It signals no threat. It allows me to let my guard down. My emotional walls crumble. I don’t fear getting attached to a man.
If you follow my work, you know my truth.
Divorce didn’t trigger my dating fears. We’ve been breaking up with people since we were 16 years old. It was the inability to free myself from a man that induced my trauma.
My ‘O.R. guy’ didn’t want a thing from me.
He was the perfect date.
My spirit double.
We texted, we met a week later, and we continued to talk.
