Maslow’s Hammer is the Hot New Dating Trend to Help You Find Love

Don’t give up on dating apps until you try this research-approved method.

Carlyn Beccia
Published in
7 min readOct 15, 2024

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Maslow’s Hammer is the Hot New Dating Trend to Help You Find Love
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A wise man once said, “Welcome to the jungle.” But he wasn’t talking about dating apps. Axl Rose wrote that song about Hollywood. And when he penned the lyrics, he was living in his mom’s basement — the cardinal sin of single men.

Today, most wise folks have abandoned the dating app jungle and returned to good old-fashioned, meeting people in person. Unfortunately, others are still clinging to this sinking ship, trying to invent new and clever ways to game the system.

That’s where my foolproof dating method — Maslow’s Hammer — comes in.

What is Maslow’s Hammer, You Ask?

Maslow’s Hammer comes from psychologist Abraham Maslow’s old chestnut of wisdom: “If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.” You know the one. It’s why your handyman uncle insists that every home repair, from a squeaky door to a broken furnace, can be fixed with nothing but a hammer and sheer willpower.

In the dating world, the hammer is your favorite assumption. And the nails? Those are the red flags you think you see in every dating app profile.

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Carlyn Beccia
Carlyn Beccia

Written by Carlyn Beccia

Award-winning author of 13 books. My latest: 10 AT 10: The Surprising Childhoods of 10 Remarkable People, MONSTROUS: The Lore, Gore, & Science. CarlynBeccia.com

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