Misunderstood Strength Is Why Many Strong Women Can’t Find A Strong Man

A mixup of strength, energy expression, and attraction

Christopher Kokoski
Published in
6 min readMar 10, 2022

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Cartoon Woman flexing her bicep — Misunderstood Strength Is Why Many Strong Women Can’t Find a Strong Man
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Strong women, men love you.

It may not seem like we do but it’s 100% true. Strong men love strong women. Hell, weak men love strong women.

The opposite is rarely the case. Most women want a strong man (not a weak one) who is centered, confident, and calm in the face of chaos.

Both men and women misunderstand strength and how to express it meaningfully in a relationship.

This article is about this misunderstanding of strength, energy expression, and attraction. And misunderstood strength is one reason why many strong women can’t find a strong man.

Disclaimer: Language is somewhat inadequate for fully describing the complexities of human experience. Terms like masculine and feminine are out of vogue in many circles, yet they remain useful tools to help us understand ourselves and each other.

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Christopher Kokoski

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