The Cost of Caring Too Much
Why boundary setting is one of the most important skills we need.
Why are so many people in the world unhappy when there is more abundance today than ever before in human history? We are stressed out from work; overwhelmed with the kids at home; and constantly anxious because there never seem to be enough hours in the day to get things done. I would argue that it’s because most of us don’t know how to set healthy boundaries.
Why Is Boundary Setting So Hard?
If you’re an empath like me, you’ve more than likely been taken advantage of before, in one way or another. It could have been for your love, your care, your money, your reputation, your connections, or all of them. In all likelihood, you’ve been (mostly) used in your personal relationships — that tends to be the most prevalent way. That was certainly the case for me.
As beautiful a quality as empathy is, it unfortunately often comes paired with a poor, or non-existent, ability to set boundaries. We’re always trying to help; to fix things; to make things better; to make things work — and almost always feel if things go wrong, it’s our fault. The consequences can be devastating, ranging from being unhappy to serious psychological and physical issues or even life-threatening situations.
