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The Dangerous Psychology Driving the Beliefs of Harrison Butker
And how this belief system harms women.
Before I had kids, I never imagined I would want to stay home with them. However, after my daughter was born, I didn’t want to go back to work. I was fortunate to have a five-month maternity leave, but for financial reasons, I had to return to work. Now, as a divorced mother of three, I’m grateful I continued working. I can financially support myself, and I have a career I enjoy.
But I understand why some women choose to stay home. I know women who always dreamed of getting married, having kids, and staying home. Some of these women have husbands with demanding careers and staying home is the choice that is best for them and their family. I know other women who had successful careers who chose to leave the workforce when their children were school-aged because they felt it was the best choice for them and their family.
These women I mention stay home not because they thought it was their destiny as women to give up their dreams and stay home. They stay home because staying home is their dream, and it’s a dream they chose, not one that was forced upon them because of their biological sex.
Equality in a relationship doesn’t have to mean both partners’ roles are the same. Traditional gender roles…
