The Truth About Men and Their Bare-Minimum Efforts

Why we should stop normalizing it.

Anggun Bawi
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4 min readJan 28, 2024

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Have you ever gone crazy waiting for a man to call? Did you analyze his short texts figuring out what they meant? How about that one day when he “forgot” your birthday?

Congratulations! You’ve been dating a man who would never 100% commit.

For too long now, women have tolerated men with their bare minimum efforts. It’s heartbreaking. It’s degrading. It upsets me to see some women lose their years just waiting in line.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re the only one who puts in the effort, maybe you’re right. And no, you aren’t crazy.

It’s just that something has to change.

The hard truth no women want to believe: words mean little to nothing

In relationships, words mean a lot more for women. Some even need constant reassurance that their partner still loves them. Unfortunately, men don’t always see it the same way.

I could attest to this not because I’m a man but because I’ve met enough liars and cheaters in my life.

Those who say it in your face you’re the one but decide to slide into your best friend’s DM.

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Anggun Bawi
Heart Affairs

writing on trauma, dating and relationships - in the hope that you'll feel less alone on your journey | lives in vancouver 🇨🇦