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Understanding Why I Reject My Partner’s Sexual Advances
A conundrum.
My partner can turn almost anything I say into a sexual innuendo. He does it all the time. He also seems to find any excuse to fondle me, kiss me, or suggest we ‘go upstairs’ at any given moment — usually during moments when we couldn’t possibly get away.
My partner loves the idea of thinking about having spontaneous sex with me or sneaking away to do so. Hey, I get it. It stimulates him to think about these things.
However, over the many years that we’ve been together, I have often found myself irritated by these sexual come-ons. Why? I’m not sure. When I think about it, there isn’t a good reason to be annoyed with him over these things.
After over a decade together, my partner still desires me most days of the week. Isn’t this the thing most people dream about? A partner who still wants them like this after dating, marriage, and having kids?
This has made me wonder if my aggravation about my partner’s desire for more sex with me is unwarranted.
There are lots of moments where my partner attempts to approach me sexually, and it feels inconvenient for me, like when I’m in the middle of doing something time-sensitive or I’m attempting to…
