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What My Friend Told Me About Grief Is True
Here’s how it finally took a back seat in my life.
I made it into my early thirties before I experienced the true force of grief.
But when it hit me, it hit hard.
It was enough to knock the wind out of me—and along with it, any life force left in me.
It was like nothing I’d ever experienced, and nothing I could have prepared for. The emotional roller coaster that accompanied my husband’s abrupt decision to leave was a lot to handle.
Sometimes, it felt like too much. Like my world was closing in on me, and that I’d be trapped underneath the weight of it all for the rest of my life.
In the early stages of the breakup, when I was at my worst, a friend said something to me that had always stuck with me.
We were talking about grief, and how it never really goes away.
It’s always going to be there because the person you lost was a part of your life.
When the grief is the result of a breakup, you will move on from that person, but your time with them will always be a chapter of your life. Even if you want to, you can’t erase your history.
Sometimes this part can be really painful.
