Why Doesn’t My Girlfriend Want to Have Sex With Me?
It’s not you, it’s science! (Well… it might be you)
In every relationship I’ve ever been in, I’ve been asked to have more sex. My answer has always been the same; no.
This isn’t because I don’t love my man. This isn’t because I don’t find him attractive. It’s because of science.
It’s also because of society, and conditioning. But before we get into the nitty-gritty, let’s set the scene for why men and women seem so to be so far removed from each other, sexually.
The sexual revolution of the 1960’s and 70’s saw sex rebranded. Due to the introduction of birth control, what was once saved for reproduction could now be used for pleasure. Yay for choices!
But something got lost in translation.
Crafting sexual autonomy for women meant drawing inspiration from those who were already liberated; men. Thus, it was understood that to be liberated, a woman had to have sex like a (stereotypical) man.
If we’re stereotyping (which I will do a lot in this article), then sex — inspired by a male norm — is spontaneous, frequent, and doesn’t always need emotional connection to facilitate it. Of course, much of this is because of how men are socialized, but some of it is due to their biology.
