Why Iron Man Is a Problem For Victims of Narcissistic Abuse

No, Tony Stark is not a narcissist.

Kara Summers
Published in
9 min readAug 19, 2021

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Photo Credit: Chris Doornbos

He is a hero and sometimes also a little bit villain. He is handsome, charismatic, highly intelligent, and successful. He is Tony Stark. He is Iron Man. If you are female and enjoy Marvel, why wouldn’t you fantasize about dating him? Or someone like him.

Of course, he is a fictional character, but men like him do exist. I am not talking about his strength or super-brain, I mean his character. We come across them every day in the real world. We find them on dating sites, at work, we see them in reality TV Shows, we see them dating our friends.

Or do we?

Textbook Narcissism

In Iron Man 2, Fury reads out a character assessment of Tony Stark that Natasha Romanoff has done. It reads:

“Personality overview. Mr Stark displays compulsive behaviour.” ... “Prone to self-destructive tendencies.” …. “Textbook narcissism”

To the last assessment, Tony Stark simply responds: “Agreed”.

So Tony Stark is a textbook example of a narcissist?

If you search the internet for a character assessment you might find similar statements. Cinema Therapy who psychologically assess movie characters…

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Kara Summers
Heart Affairs

Author, Mindset Coach, Feminist, Abuse Survivor, Stronger than ever