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Why Some People Thrive On ‘Dirty Talk’ During Sex — And Some Don’t
Do you like your sexual encounters to be narrated?
I wouldn’t exactly describe myself as a prude—not by any means. I feel like I am fairly open-minded about sexual experimentation. I’ve had my fair share of adventurous sexual experiences. However, I still get all blushy and weird when my current partner uses dirty talk.
Something about dirty talk makes me feel embarrassed. I know I can’t be the only woman who feels this way. I don’t think I’m repressed sexually, nor do I judge others for what they enjoy doing in the privacy of their own space.
So why the embarrassment over sexually explicit words being whispered in my ear during sex? It could be because it calls attention to the act of sex itself. Some people, like myself, are more inside their heads during sex, while others are more in the moment and verbal.
Fantasizing about certain things during sex is not uncommon. However, many people enjoy talking about all the sexual things they are doing while they are doing it. They also like to discuss the sexual acts that might come next, as a lead-up to them.
To me, a lot of dirty talk at once almost sounds like a play-by-play reading, which ruins…
