Why You’ve Become Invisible to Women After Divorce (And How to Change That)

Mate, she’s not avoiding you — you’re avoiding yourself.

“8 months single, and I might as well be invisible!” his message read.

The little typing bubbles popped up… then disappeared. Then popped up again.

Finally: “4 billion women on Earth, and not a single woman will look at me, let alone show interest!”

“I don’t get it. What the fuck am I doing wrong!?”

I stared at his words for a second, remembering how alone and rejected I felt after the separation.

If you’ve ever been through a divorce, you’ve probably felt this same way. The frustration. The desperation.

You need to feel wanted again, but whether you realize it or not, the energy you’re putting out is working against you.

A human scarecrow

I was still getting used to sleeping alone when I found out she wasn’t.

She met someone at a work conference. Two weeks later, I was begging her to cut off contact with them while we worked through our problems. But it was too late.

She’d moved on a long time ago.