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You Aren’t Crazy — He Just Quiet-Quit the Relationship
The subtle signs you might not know yet.
He said he’d change but things stay the same — worse even.
He stopped asking how your day was. He couldn’t care less about your birthday. But when you confronted him, he “confirmed” that he still loves you.
Does he though? It’s clear to me he no longer wants to be in your life. Or maybe he does — for different reasons.
Regardless, it doesn’t sit well with me knowing how many of us begging for what we deserve in the first place. You might be wondering, “If he doesn’t love me anymore why doesn’t he just walk away?”
For a while, I wondered too. I couldn’t stop thinking about all the people close to me who are clinging to a dead relationship. I’m still not able to fully forgive my mother for staying in an abusive marriage.
My point is, that you don’t have to wait until things get bad for you to walk away. When someone pulls “quiet-quitting” on you, it’s clear that they don’t value the relationship anymore.
As much as I’d like to see their perspectives and understand why they did it, I can never tolerate it because I’ve been there too many times. I’ve got no patience left in me.
