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You Aren’t Crazy — You’ve Just Been Ghosted
I wish I didn’t let him make me his backup plan.
An HR lady from a company I’d an interview with told me she would give me a call the next day — even if I’m not selected. A week later, I heard nothing.
This isn’t my first time being ghosted though. Getting a job in today’s economy is rough, but so is dating. People normalize “ghosting” too much to the point they question themselves if it’s OK to get hurt because of it.
I don’t care what others say, ghosting someone who clearly shows interest in you is not okay. The least you could do is let them know that you don’t want to pursue the relationship further.
It’s not that hard to be a decent human being. Trust me, in today’s modern dating, people will appreciate rejection more than ghosting.
On the other hand, if you’re the one being ghosted, it’ll hurt for a while. Especially when you already think the relationship is about to go somewhere (at least in your head).
However, you don’t need to rush it out. I’ve heard so much dating advice on the internet where they say, “The only way to move on after being ghosted is to date new people right away”.
But that’s just called a rebound and you’re only going to hurt yourself more. The truth is…
