Your Deepest Divorce Grief Will Have Nothing To Do With Your Ex
But one day you will dream again.
I’ve been divorced for one and a half years and am six months away from turning 40, and my life doesn’t look the way I thought it would.
When you lose a marriage, you lose much more than the person you were married to.
Depending on your situation, the loss of your ex may bring you sadness or it may bring you great joy. The day my divorce was final was one of the happiest days of my life, yet I still grieve the loss of my marriage in ways that have nothing to do with the loss of my ex-husband.
Through divorce, you lose so many other things. You lose other people and relationships. You lose routines and vacations and nights out with your couple friends. You lose time with your kids. You lose your future memories. You lose your hopes and your dreams. You lose the life you thought you would have.
No matter how the future pieces of your life come together and the new blessings that come your way, your life will never look the way you thought it would.
This is the hardest loss to mourn. This is the loss that keeps coming up layer after layer, sometimes taking you by surprise by its strength and ferocity, and by the way, it can be triggered by the most mundane…
