How to Plan a Blessingway
A Blessingway, or Mother’s Blessing, is the perfect alternative to a baby shower.
The Blessingway is a Navajo tradition that celebrates a mother before her child is born. Pregnancy is a sacred time in a woman’s life. This ceremony helps to bring together a community of women supporting the mom-to-be.
The term Mother’s Blessing has been adapted for this type of gathering and has caught on with many new mothers of different backgrounds. It is a ceremony filled with honor and gratitude for the female body. We celebrate the mother’s ability to carry and birth a child with the women who have a special relationship with her. During pregnancy so much focus is placed on the coming baby. Let’s not forget to pamper the new mom. Mother’s Blessings give us the opportunity to surround her with inspiration.
We can help her prepare, mind, spirit, and home for this new life.
The Mother’s Blessing has an endless list of possibilities when it comes to planning. You can choose from traditional Blessingway ceremonies or opt for more modern activities. As long as the focus is kept on nurturing the new mom-to-be, then that’s all that matters.
We’ve all seen the beautiful photos of henna adorned bellies full of life floating around Pinterest. There is nothing more beautiful than a pregnant belly, ripe for birth, covered in beautiful art. You can hire a henna artist to attend the Mother’s Blessing and decorate Mom’s belly as the guests sit and chat. Most likely sharing their birth stories, as women do when they are gathered for an event focused on such a beautiful time in life.
Make a Labor Necklace
Invite your guests to each bring a bead representing a strength Mom has. Take turns explaining what the beads represent as you place them on a string for Mom to wear during her labor. This will help remind her of the women who are supporting her through labor. There are many beautiful beads crafted specifically for this purpose. Check Etsy for a piece from a talented artist.
If you only chose to do one activity at a Mother’s Blessing, sharing scripture or quotes is a good one. Invite your guests to bring verses, quotes or book passages that are specific to birth and motherhood. You can share these passages aloud or gather them for Mom to enjoy privately. Create a journal as a keepsake or make a banner full of inspirational words. Then Mom can hang it in the nursery or someplace where she can see it during labor.
Light a Candle
Send your guests home with a candle. When labor starts every woman lights their candle as a reminder to mentally support Mom through her labor.
The string ceremony is often the last one done at a Mother’s Blessing. The women sit in a circle each holding out a hand. One long piece of string is wrapped around each woman’s wrist binding them all together. This is done to symbolize unity. The string is then cut between each woman and tied around the wrist to be worn as a bracelet until the baby is born. When you look down at your string bracelet you will think of the mom-to-be and send up positive thoughts and prayers for her.
Prepare the Home
The Mother’s Blessing is all about nurturing Mom and showing her support. A wonderful way to do this is by helping prepare her home for new life. Gather your community of women to deep clean her home. Plan freezer meals that are nourishing and spend the day filling her freezer. Wash and sort baby clothes with her. Any activities like this are helpful and nurturing as long as Mom is comfortable with them.
A Mother’s Blessing is a time for the Mom to be surrounded with the women she loves most.
A time to feel honored and be told how loved and important she is. These ceremonies can be a spiritual and emotional experience for all involved. Don’t be surprised when the tears start flowing. Since this is a time to honor the Mom, consider her needs. Will she be comfortable with the traditional aspects that are more ceremonial? If not, then chose activities that still nurture her and make her feel honored and loved before the huge undertaking that is birth.