What I’ve Learned from a Lifetime of Fear

Hello Fears
Jan 18, 2017 · 4 min read
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I can remember feeling extremely anxious and uncomfortable as early as age four.

It felt like training my mind for the anxiety Olympics, constantly calming myself.

It required believing in myself and in the possibility that things would get better.

This can either make you feel alone and hopeless or empowered and free.

There are no outside causes; the problem and the solution both come from you. It does not mean it’s your fault, it just means you have the ability to fix it. This is something I was too young to realize with my fear of fire drills, and it took me a long time to realize it with my new anxieties.

I try as often as I can to view fear as something I control, not something that controls me.

None of this means that I am completely fear-free or that my anxiety is gone and I do everything with complete self-assurance. Everything is definitely a work in progress and goes up and down very often. I still have to take deep breaths and talk to myself. I still avoid things every once in a while because I’m afraid my anxiety will get in the way.


Hello Fears

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Hello Fears

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Hey there! It’s Michelle Poler, The Fear Girl, writing on behalf of a community of non-conformists who face their fears to find meaning and inspire others.

Hello Fears

From the creator of 100 Days Without Fear. Hello Fears’ mission is to inspire the world through stories of courage from everyday people. Submit your story here: https://hellofears.typeform.com/to/Ow6LJN